When you get so busy with life (mostly with work and opportunities), you tend to lose sight of what you have.
The things that you have now and are happening pass you by with a blur. I’ve never thought I’d ever feel as if I’m one of those dads who are so busy with life that they don’t see their children growing up.
Physically, I’m always there. I’m there during breakfast, usually lunch and dinner.
But, I’ve found myself recently more and more not being there mentally. My mind was always gearing towards something “bigger” — an elusive aim that seems to go higher and higher as soon as I can reach higher, maintaining that few inches of separation.
One thing I do love is that realization hits hard during times where you don’t expect it. Just minutes ago (I’m typing this at almost 11PM). my son woke up from his sleep and was looking around to see where we are at (he sleeps in a different bed but in the same room). I went to him and he immediately hugged me and said “Daddy”.
As I put the covers on him and hugged him to sleep on a very quiet night, I realized it was also when the message was loudest: “Take good care of them. Stop looking on what’s not here and focus on what’s here”.
I realized that what kept me preoccupied are things are still not here. Clients who have not yet signed up. Employees who I have not yet hired. Impacted people who have not yet been impacted.
I also realized what got me here is not things to come but things that are here: my family, clients who I’ve taken care of, employees who I have loved and the people that surround me.
I vow to take care of them first by being there physically AND mentally.